Thursday, August 1, 2013

“I was abused in the relationship”: Nollywood actress Funke akindele talks about her failed marriage

The marriage split between popular actress, Funke Akindele
and partner, Kehinde Oloyede now has a new twist to it as the
Jenifa star opens up on the rocky relationship.
The marriage which lasted just about one year was called off
with Oloyede posted online that they have "agreed to go their
separate ways due to irreconcilable differences."
After rumours of a half-hearted denial, both parties agreed
to come clean and call it off publicly.
In an interview with E24-7 Magazine, the funny actress
hinted that she only enjoyed the first two months of the
marriage.
Read excerpts of the interview below:
"I was abused emotionally and verbally. Really, I felt we could
work things out when the trouble started two months after
the marriage, but I made up my mind and shut the door of the
marriage at him when the trouble was coming to me too much.
I stooped to conquer him; buried my fame and name to make him
my husband, but it did not work. At a point in time, I asked if
it's not the same man that was all over me before we married.
He nearly got me off my career. He called me severally; I did not
pick his calls but when he realized my silence was tormenting
him, he took to Facebook. It's alright. Ask him when did he come
to my house last? He left me here in my rented apartment with
nothing and he will just dash in and dash out. He gets abusive,
caustic anytime we have a misunderstanding and often told me
to my face, he's going to his wife in Oshodi."
At Oshodi, she said, she received a warm welcome from the
wife, Fadekemi, but constant humiliation from Kehinde.
"She was really loved by the kids at home; she enjoyed taking
them out to eateries and stores. Sometimes, they spent the
weekend with her and she followed them to school. The
children will surely miss her," our source, close to the family,
said. Now that the cookie has crumbled, Kehinde, she said has
been calling and sending text messages begging her to come
back.
"He sent me sms that he has seen a buyer for his house at
Adeniyi Jones for N40million. He asked me if he should sell it
and that if he does, he will buy me a new car and a rent me a
new apartment. Why now? I don't need all that, I want my
sanity." After she ignored him, he sent her another text
abusing her and calling her names. "So you can see that he does
not mean well for me," she re-iterated.
E24-7 checks revealed as at Saturday evening Kehinde was
combing the nooks and crannies of Ikorodu to locate Funke's
dad's house. He boasted: "I will do anything to win my wife
back."
Over the past few months, Funke and Kehinde had started to
see things differently so the need to pull out became inexorably
high. It was revealed exclusively to E24-7 MAGAZINE by
sources close to Funke, that she was ready to go on with
Kehinde's warts and all but for the fact that loyalty has never
been his strong point- his children from different women tell it
all. Kehinde, our source hinted, has a roving eye when it comes
to the opposite sex and this often causes friction between him
and his celebrity wife. There are tales about his dalliance with
his Personal Assistant, Funke. Observers of the marriage from
inception feel that when fame and money come to a meeting
point in a relationship, it will result in problems if the couple are
not committed and disciplined. Moreover, a byproduct of this
alliance is usually ego and it kills celebrity marriages faster than
one can open the pages of tabloids and magazines. But this is
not the case with Funke. "I respect him to the end but he chose
to treat me that way. He said he wanted to clip my wings."
Funke and Kehinde rarely spent substantial time together even
at the peak of their marriage. Both kept to hectic schedules by
virtue of their chosen professions. While Funke is often
involved in back-to-back shooting on movie sets, Kehinde
jumps from one construction site to another; pressing buttons
for his political ambitions; and keeping dates with his wife at
home and other women by the side. This sort of arrangement
invariably makes keeping faith with the vows of the union very
difficult. In the long run, suspicion will rear its ugly head and the
couple will eventually drift apart, especially when they don't
live under the same roof. This is best exemplified in Funke and
Kehinde's break up.
Besides, Kehinde's disturbing and haunting pasts have
repeatedly stared Funke right in the face, and according to
E24-7 MAGAZINE's impeccable source, Funke learnt
shockingly that her once beloved hubby was expelled from the
University of Jos almost as soon as he was matriculated as a
student of the ivory tower. His admission, according to our
source, was faulty right from the beginning and since that
first attempt at tertiary education went awry, he shut his
door at education. When he returned from Jos, he found
strength in his entrepreneurial skill coupled with the influence
and support of his mother, a market leader and successful
businesswoman; he became an estate developer, building chains
of shops in Oshodi market.
Gradually, he crept into politics and his popularity soared that
he became a well-known grassroots politician and a great
mobilizer. More than twice, Kehinde, who belonged to the
People's Democratic Party (PDP), and his supporters have
clashed with the NATIONAL UNION OF ROAD TRANSPORT
WORKERS (NURTW) Treasurer, Musiliu Akinsanya aka MC
Oluomo an Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN) loyalist. Kehinde
has also contested for elective posts twice; most recent, was
the Oshodi/Isolo Constituency 1 House of Representatives in
2007 which he also lost.
Many years after, he reawakened his political ambition and
quickly re-aligned himself by joining the Action Congress of
Nigeria (ACN). To shore up his image, he found in Funke who
has become monstrously popular with her movie, Jenifa and
the sequel, The Return of Jenifa, a ready tool. He convinced
the favourite actress to lead him to the Leader of the Action
Congress of Nigeria, Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu, whom he had
assaulted many years ago during the market women leadership
tussle between his mother, Alhaja Almaroof and the late Iyaloja
General Alhaja Abibat Mogaji. After he atoned for his 'sins,' he
joined the train of well- wishers that went to London to
felicitate with the former governor when one of his sons
graduated from a university in London. Reliable sources told
E24-7 MAGAZINE that Kehinde's lost bid to win the contract
to rebuild Oshodi market really threw him off balance and that
probably made him to turn the heat on his latest wife, Funke
who wanted his attention.
Despite the ill-fated turn that the relationship has taken,
many of Funke's fans can't help but wonder if she hadn't
known that the union was doomed to fail from the onset. The
reason for this thinking is not far-fetched; firstly, Funke
opted for the Muslim marriage even when many thought that
she would go to the court registry to cement her marriage with
Oloyede. Secondly, sources close to the family said Kehinde
was warned by spiritualists not to venture into the marriage
but he declined and did not share it with Funke. In the same
vein, Funke was told not to go into it by her parents but she
asked them to respect her wish.
And as it plays out, she is free to remarry anytime she pleases
without unnecessary legal impediments. This and many other
factors contribute to the opinion shared by many of her fans
that the delectable thespian knew that the future of her
marriage with Oloyede will not be as long, colourful and bright
as it appeared with all the glam. It's just too quick and too
fast to break. Now that the requiem mass has been sung for
the once celebrated union, one cannot but remember the view
of controversial actress, Tonto Dikeh, who declared that
Nollywood brides often marry "horribly." Sources close to
Funke, who has returned to Asaba's movie location on
Saturday morning, believe that though her action may not make
perfect sense to many now as the confusion created may be
laughed at while she goes through the tears, she's confident
that she will smile again.